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The Art of Surviving a Miscarriage…by a Woman Who’s Had Five
No matter your gestation, you’re allowed to feel this.
Being ‘known’ for your body’s uncanny ability to expel human life makes you a bit of an awkward dinner party guest. Miscarriage combines two of society’s most feared subjects — death and endometrial blood — to create the ultimate taboo. But after losing five pregnancies at varying stages, I’ve learnt to shirk the discomfort and own my story. And that means if you ask me what I write about, I may use it as an opportunity to invite you into a dialogue about pregnancy loss.
Seeing as you’re here, I’m going to assume you want to talk about grief. Maybe you’re looking for hope. Maybe you are looking for understanding. Maybe you’re trying to empathise with someone you love. Whatever your reasons, thank you for standing witness to my experiences. I hope it gives you strength.
What to expect when you’re (no longer) expecting
You’re unlikely to learn why this happened…so you’ll blame yourself
Asking ‘why’ in the face of loss is an emotional reflex as automatic as breathing. But in the case of miscarriage, it’s uncommon to discover the reason behind your loss and that can often lead us…
