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When You Miscarry, You Stand With Warriors
Becoming a part of the ‘1 in 4’ statistic is a shock that can softened by the women who have come before you.
Shortly after ‘coming out’ about my miscarriage, two of my friends posted their pregnancy announcements on Facebook. I remember liking the post, leaving a happy comment, closing my laptop and giving myself a mental pat on the back for not feeling jealous. Miscarriage Level 1 Achievement unlocked. But later that night, I did the math and my stomach sunk. We would have been around twelve weeks and in ‘the safe zone’. They made it and we didn’t. I snuggled into my husband’s chest and left a damp patch on his t-shirt, disappointed in myself for being so bitterly disappointed.
They made it and we didn’t.
For every three pregnancy announcements you see online, one of your friends is miscarrying
We hear the statistics-that 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage-but rarely do we conceptualise that for every three pregnancy announcements we see online, another one of our friends is packing up the baby clothes they bought too soon. Unless I was talking to my family, I rarely heard about pregnancy loss until I found myself the one part of the in ‘1 in…
